Actually, it’s quite the opposite.
I’ve had many more chicken sh*t moments than I’ve had brave ones. But I desperately want to be brave and wise, and since I tend to obsess over what I don’t yet have, the cyber world is home to ABraveLife.com whether it likes it or not.
The simple and unfortunate methodology behind content creation for this site is: I write when I’m licking my wounds after a major life screw-up. But as it turns out, these moments are when you are your most humble, teachable, and malleable. You won’t get any wiser than you are when you’re on your knees.
For example, I wrote this post because even after paying off $28k in credit card debt, I suffer from extreme financial anxiety. As in, while I’m lying in bed at night, I stay up late punching numbers in my calculator, hoping that my financial situation will look different each time. (Confession: Sometimes I do this until I fall asleep, calculator still in hand.) I hate that I’m like this. So I write about it.
I wrote this post because I was disappointed with how a political debate had unfolded on my Facebook wall. (It got ugly, people.) Neither side was innocent of appearing like a total butthead, including myself. So I wrote about it.
I wrote this post because the one and only gorgeous guy at my former job had a crush on me. And at the time, despite being happily engaged to my now husband, I couldn’t help but notice that, well, the one and only gorgeous guy at my former job had a crush on me! I realized how tempting it was to do something supremely stupid. So I wrote about it.
And now, a story about a wise man named Nasrudin…
“Oh great sage, Nasrudin,” said the eager student. “I must ask you a very important question, the answer to which we all seek: What is the secret to attaining happiness?”
Nasrudin thought for a time, then responded. “The secret of happiness is good judgment.”
“Ah,” said the student. “But how do we attain good judgement?”
“From experience,” answered Nasrudin.
“Yes,” said the student. “But how do we attain experience?”
Your Turn: What lessons have you learned the hard way?