If you want to see a list of my favorite responses (Can I just say you guys rule?), head over here. But in this article, I’ll focus on the patterns that emerged in your answers and what they mean for all of us.
Here are the 8 categories and themes represented in your answers:
- Body image (“Stop hating your body.”)
- How to deal with life’s sh*t storms and setbacks
- Career and education advice
- Financial advice
- Carpe diem, b*tches!
- Be yourself. Trust your intuition. Speak your Truth.
- Dating/ marriage/ sex advice
- Miscellaneous tips related to personal growth and happiness: Be in therapy, “Stick it out– the grass isn’t always greener.”
- Compassion (towards yourself and others)
- Fun stuff: “Learn to play the guitar, chicks love it,” etc.
The top 3 most common answers, including those most “liked” by others, fell into the following categories:
1st Place: Be yourself. Trust your intuition. Speak your Truth.
Tied for 2nd Place: Career and education advice & Dating/ marriage/ sex advice
3rd Place: How to deal with life’s sh*t storms and setbacks
So what can we take away from these results?
First, that our shared, universal, life-long struggle is to uncover who we truly are and honor whatever it is we find. How beautiful yet tragic it is that we are destined to spend our lifetimes recovering our lost Truth. This is a deeply spiritual journey we all must take, and like all spiritual journeys, you’ll need to pack your biggest set of balls.
Second, there are two decisions that have a profound effect on our satisfaction with life: our work and our relationships. Humans need something to do and someone to love, because that’s what our hearts and minds were designed for. If you majorly screwed up in one of these areas, that’s okay– it’s how we learn. But the point is, have you really learned the lessons? (Hint: You know you’ve learned a lesson if your behaviors have changed.)
Third, I think we can all agree that how you handle and process life’s sh*t storms and setbacks determines what your future holds. If you can get good at resilience, and master the art of being better, not bitter, then no tragedy has the power to define you. You will officially be a bad ass! (You know, in an enlightened, self-actualized way.)
In the coming weeks I’ll thoroughly addressing all four of these top concerns. But for today, consider this article a call to action. A battle cry for the soul. A reminder that it is never too late to be who we might have been, if we’ve got the guts to take ourselves there. Because what’s the point of giving our younger selves advice if we’re not taking it now?
Your Turn: How have you grown in the past 10 years? In what ways would you like to grow over your next 10 years?
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