I came across a seasonal song that’s got me thinking about balls (a goofy tune by The Dan Band called “Please Don’t Bomb Nobody This Holiday”), and so naturally, it has become my new favorite Christmas ditty. It features impeccably timed foul language, a positive message, and over 15 celebrity cameos in its video (plus a fun boob flash).
One of my former professors told me that as therapists we must be very selective with our words as we care for clients. Words are powerful tools for healing. “Words hug,” she said. And if that’s true, then words can also break hearts. Like bombs, words can start and perpetuate feuds. Like bombs, they can create mass suffering. Like bombs, you can’t take them back once unleashed onto a target.
2011 has been the year of verbal bombs for me. I carelessly dropped a few, and a few were dropped on me as well. The problem is that even after the hurtful words you used have long been forgotten, the victims of your verbal bombs will never forget how you made them feel. Emotions are sticky like that – they hang around like guests who have overstayed their welcome.
So my hope is that this time of year inspires us to use our words wisely and kindly, and to heed the Dan Band’s advice: Please don’t bomb nobody this holiday. It’s a time to let go, to hope, to trust, and to accept. None of these are easy tasks, of course. They require guts, discipline, and heart. But if you’re reading this blog post you probably want bigger balls, and I know without a doubt that even if you’re not 100% bomb-free this holiday, you will at the very least be brave enough to try.