We have all experienced a personal sh*t storm of one kind or another. Maybe it was a career slump, a rough patch in your marriage or relationship, financial hardship, a health scare, or even a death.
I don’t know what your sh*t storm is, but I know it’s an important part of your life story. I know it has helped define you because that’s what hardships, trauma, and challenges do.
The question is: Who have you become since then? Are you bitter or better because of your personal sh*t storm? Are you any braver?
When I suffered from a depression and quarter-life crisis in 2005, I was broken down into a sorry puddle of blah. Everything I once knew to be true about Life and Love seemed like a big fat lie, and I spent nearly 3 years mourning over it all.
My guess is I made 90% of Kleenex brand’s profits from 2005-2008, single-handedly supplying their employees with paychecks and benefits. (Kleenex employees: You can thank me with buckets full of mac ‘n cheese, or possibly a really cool pimped out tree house.)
But the beautiful thing about people who are wounded is that they are like glass being put through a fire — they can change shape. They’re malleable. And because of this, they have great potential.
Do you want to know the reason why I’m committed to helping others fight for their own emotional well-being through A Brave Life and my counseling practice? (Maybe not, but I’ll tell you anyway.) It’s simple: I want a life of service because that’s what emerged in me after the fire. I will always remember 2005 as the year that kicked my butt, grew my balls, and opened my heart to the idea of helping others grow their own pair too.
It’s understandable if at first you become a worse person as a result of your pain. (Hello– guilty!) But don’t get stuck there. Get better, stronger, kinder, and wiser. Find meaning and purpose in the aftermath of your sh*t storm.
We’re all rooting for you. You can do this.
Your Turn: How has a challenge or trauma propelled you into wiser, braver living?